November 7, 2017
❣️It’s time for us ladies to stop putting our all into dudes that don’t appreciate us. Fellas, it’s time to STOP tricking to the girl that don’t deserve you. Why should we do the absolute most for someone who don’t deserve what we have to offer? All they do is produce us with the bare minimum and expect us to turn our whole world around for them. We deserve way more.
❣️Let’s stop compromising our morals & values for people that don’t respect us. If they don’t respect the morals & values you have set up for your life, they are NOT for you. Now listen, I’m not saying that compromising is a bad thing but if it’s to the point that your family & friends don’t recognize you for the better, it is not worth the compromise. We have to learn how to decipher between what is healthy or detrimental to our lives.
❣️If that guy or girl can’t give you the time you need to build a friendship/relationship with them, it’s not worth it. If they have time to like things on social media, they have time to text or call you. Remember, if they want to build something with you, they will make time to communicate and see you. Let’s stop making excuses for them not calling, texting, planning quality time, etc. If they want something REAL, they will play no games.
❣️I am not a relationship guru or a professional but I have really mediatated on the things I have been through while dating & being in relationships. All of my dating & relationship experiences have taught me valuable life lessons. Over the years, I have noticed that I have allowed certain things to flow when I know it was compromising my morals & values or how I would handle a certain situation. I am someone who loves LOVE. I love seeing people in love, I love the feeling of being in love and I want everyone to find that special love.
💖When it comes to LOVE:
1. We have to love ourselves first. If we love ourselves, we will be able to give out the love we want. If you don’t love yourself, how do you know if you are receiving the love you deserve or desire? All love is not good love which means it really is not love at all.
2. Remember that God is Love! There is always someone who loves you unconditonally without restrictions. I know everyone doesn’t believe in God but whatever or whoever you believe in, don’t you believe that higher power loves you? If not, you might want to think again about what or who you are worshipping. I had to learn that God loves me for me. I had to learn how to love again after heartbreak through the love of Jesus.
3. Don’t give your love to someone who doesn’t deserve it. Often time the pressures of age, biological clocks, nosey family members, etc. make you feel as if you have to be married now or have to have kids very soon. Those things will come with time. Timing is everything. Don’t feel as if you have to marry the person you are with because your biological clock is ticking or your family believes you should be married. Things will happen when the timing is right. Also, don’t feel as if you have to stay with someone because you been with them for years. If it isn’t going anywhere and you have had conversations time and time again, walk away. It’s easier said than done but build the courage, the strength and muster up the faith to walk away so that you can be happy.
❣️The life you want and desire starts with loving yourself. Don’t let anyone stop you!!!
With Love Always,
Janéa Alisha 💋
Janea Alisha 