When a Good Girl Goes Bad

I consider myself a good girl. I look at myself as loyal, nice & kindhearted. I live my life with morals & values that will allow me to be the best ‘me’ possible! I try to portray the fruits of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, Galatians 5:22-23. When trying to carry ourselves as women & men of God, we often time can give people the impression that we can be walked over or done terribly because we look at things and situations with a Godly eye. I was tired of being treated badly and looked over, so I decided to start doing things my own way, on my own terms. I completely lost my relationship with God so much that going to Church was placed on the back burner. I was tired of listening to the same sermons, tired of trying to keep a squeaky, clean image and I didn’t care how people viewed me.

I was walking this Earth with no substance, something I never thought I would do. I stop feeling bad about sinning and started justifying my behavior by saying everybody else is doing it, so why can’t I. I lost myself into trying to find love from the world instead of finding it within myself through God. When I say being a bad girl is not what it’s hyped up to be. It was fun and fulfilling short term but knowing what goals I have set for my life, it was definitely not worth it. When I think about it, I wasn’t even that much of a bad girl as I thought. I was more of a good girl with a bad spirit of worldliness. I still had the conscious of God swimming in my brain even while I was out here thinking I was living my best life…

1. They want to fit in. Us good girls think we have to change how we look or how we carry ourselves in order to be seen by others when in all realness we are already above the rest because God sees us as fearfully and wonderfully made, Psalms 139:14.

2. They look at worldly blessings as GOALS.

Just because God blessed someone who you didn’t think deserved the blessing, doesn’t mean it won’t happen for you. We don’t know what God has planned for others. God has a plan for everyone’s life, not just for people that serve him faithfully. We have to remember that everything we receive in life, the good and the bad, comes from God. Blessings are meant to add value to our lives. Blessings aren’t just given in the form of money and possessions. Being a good human being is a blessing in itself.

3. They believe that since everybody else is doing what they want to do, it’s okay.

We all fall short of God’s glory but as long as we correct ourselves and continue nurturing our relationship with God, we will continue growing stronger when it comes to our faith, strength, and will. Everyone has a sin they struggle with but GUESS WHAT? God will reveal what we need to do to stay on the path of righteousness. We have to learn from our mistakes and readjust our crown when it shifts.

4. They believe that the only way to feel love is through the opposite sex. We all want companionship.”Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.” Ecclesiastes 4:9. God wants us to have it as well but with the right person. Sleeping around and entertaining men and women that aren’t on the same level as you, will leave you in situations that might steer God’s plan for your love life in another direction. God will put discernment on our hearts to determine whether that person will be a lesson or a blessing. We have to know when to walk away. Ignoring red flags and intuitions will leave you in situations that should’ve been left behind a long time ago.

Good girls stay true yourself. God made you the way you are for a reason. Being a bad girl is not going to get you blessed any quicker, it’s just going to delay God’s process he has developed for your life.

Being out of the will of God, has made me question myself more and doubt my abilities more. Even though I didn’t go so far off the deep end, the fact is I could have. I could have lost my entire mind and not been able to determine that life without God is not worth it!

Rihanna has a song called ‘Good Girl Gone Bad’ Chorus states:

Easy for a good girl to go bad

And once we gone (gone)

Best believe we’ve gone forever

Don’t be the reason

Don’t be the reason

You better learn how to treat us right

‘Cause once a good girl goes bad

We gone forever

Good girl you can always revert back to the real you!!!